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Author Archives: Vorbilder Gesucht
Positive Daily Live Stories
My mum sent me an email, and from the headers it shows that she saved me as a “first born person”.
Love Drag Hate Gender Roles
We see drag as a positive parody of gendered expectations of what someone looks like. Drag is a tool for us to make fun of those expectations and to find ourselves beautiful and sexy in the process. Dragging as Enby is fun for us. Depending on what we like, we can dress up as just …
Coming in but not out – Youth in the Countryside
CW: Alcohol. I feel lost, feel like I’m in the wrong film. This film is not meant for me. The lights go on. I see that everyone here is different than me. I was in the wrong film. Later I drink champagne with the others, because I don’t dare order anything else. I don’t like …
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Genderqueer Musicians
On my search for role models I could identify with, I stumbled over these nonbinary artists. This is very special to me – for years I came to terms with the fact that people would forever see me as a guy who sometimes dresses girly. But when I saw these artists perform being neither man …
“Dear Ladies, Gentlemen, and …” – Change Your Gender Entry
How people treat each other is one thing – dehumanising bureaucratic institutions are something else entirely. Official correspondence is a very binary affair, even though Germany now officially recognises the third gender. This means that, according to §22 PStG, instead of a male or female gender, one can have a diverse gender entry, or even …
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How to Come Out as Non-Binary Towards Friends/Family
It is nice to be recognised for who you are. Unfortunately, you have to expect that non-enbies will misunderstand what you mean by that. Not all enbies come out at all. If pronouns aren’t that important to you, you might not have to explain anything to the world. But if people really want to hear …
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Language, Pronouns, Names – how Can we Talk About Ourselves?
The first problem when I want to explain to people what it’s like inside me is that the words are missing. “Something between man & woman” is about the first thing I could come up with, but that doesn’t really describe it well. “I’m an Enby” works quite well as a substitute for man/woman, even …
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What the hell am I and how can I explain it
Is it the society that is weird, or is it me? I don‘t know. What am I? I don‘t know what I am. The only thing I know is that I‘m confused. Confused and overwhelmed.
Don’t Assume my Socialization
“It’s that time again, I’m sitting in a crisis plenary where one person thinks she only sees female socialized people cooking. Before that, she saw me. Great. Yet I was so sure I had flipped the pancakes extra male.”